{ "clip_details": { "clip": { "is_admin": 0, "is_owner": 0, "handle": "bob-haggadah-four-children", "title": "Bob Haggadah - The Four Children", "author": "Josh Bob", "author_handle": "joshbob", "author_initials": "JB", "covertext": "5. THE FOUR CHILDREN –  Some consider the four sons – or four children – to be representative of di...", "user_image": "", "user_image_original": "", "body": "<p> </p>\n<p style=\"text-align:center;\"><b><span><span>5. THE FOUR CHILDREN –</span>  </span></b><span> </span><span></span></p><p></p>\n<p><span><br /></span></p>\n<p><span>Some consider the four sons – or four children – to be representative of different “child parts” within each of us. These people are scary, and should be kept away from actual children. The four children are, in reality, representative of four typical reactions by young people to their first experience with the story of Passover. Each should be dealt with differently, but it is important that each child understand the meaning and history of the holiday.</span></p><p></p>\n<p><i><span></span></i></p><p><i> </i></p><i></i>\n<p style=\"text-align:right;\"><span>ארבהאה בנים דברה תורה: אחד חכם אחד רשע אחד תם ואחד שאינו יודע לשאול</span></p><p></p>\n<p><span></span></p><p> </p>\n<p><span>Arba banim di'bra Torah: Echad Chacham, Echad Rasha, Echad Tahm, V'echad Sheh'eino Yodeah Leeshol.</span><span></span></p><p></p>\n<p><span></span></p><p> </p>\n<p><span>The Torah speaks of four types of children: one is wise, one is wicked, one is simple, and one does not know how to ask.</span><span></span></p><p></p>\n\n<p><span></span></p><p> </p>\n<p><span>Chacham, mah hu omer?</span></p><p></p>\n<p><span></span></p><p> </p>\n<p><span>The Wise One asks: \"What is the meaning of the laws and traditions God has</span><span> </span><span>commanded?\" You should teach him all the traditions of</span><span> </span><span>Passover, even to the last detail (the Afikoman).</span><span></span></p><p></p>\n\n<p><span>Rasha, mah hu omer?</span></p><p></p>\n<p><span></span></p><p> </p>\n<p><span>The Wicked One asks: \"What does this ritual mean to you?\" By using the expression \"to you\" he excludes himself from his people and denies God. Shake his arrogance and say to him: \"It is because of what the Lord did for <i>me</i> when <i>I</i> came out of Egypt.\" Say, \"For me\" and not for him – for had he been in Egypt, he would not have been freed.</span></p><p></p>\n<p><span></span></p><p> </p>\n<p><span>Tam, mah hu omer?</span></p><p></p>\n<p><span></span></p><p> </p>\n<p><span>The Simple One asks: \"What is all this?\" You should tell him: \"It was with a mighty hand that the Lord took us out of Egypt, out of the house of bondage.\"</span></p><p></p>\n\n<p><span>V’Sheeino yodeah lishol?</span></p><p></p>\n<p><span></span></p><p> </p>\n<p><span>As for the One Who Does Not Know How To Ask, you should open the discussion for him, as it is written: \"And you shall explain to your child on that day, ‘It is because of what the Lord did for me when I came out of Egypt’.\" </span></p><p></p>\n\n\n<p style=\"text-align:center;\"><span>THE FOUR CHILDREN: Pirkei Avot</span></p><p></p>\n<p><span></span></p><p> </p>\n<p><i><span>[Although Pirkei Avot (Ethics of the Fathers) does not deal directly with the same four children from the Passover Haggadah, it does speak a number of times of four types of people.]</span></i></p><p><i></i></p><i></i>\n<p><span></span></p><p> </p>\n<p><b><span>There are four types among men:  </span></b></p><p><b></b></p><b></b>\n<p><span>He who says, \"What is mine is mine and what is yours is yours\" – this is the common type, though some say that this is the type of Sodom.  </span></p><p></p>\n<p><span>He who says, \"What is mine is yours and what is yours is mine\" – he is an ignorant man.  </span></p><p></p>\n<p><span>He who says, \"What is mine is yours and what is yours is thine own\" – he is a saintly man. </span></p><p></p>\n<p><span>And he who says, \"What is yours is mine, and what is mine is mine\" – he is a wicked man. (<i>Pirkei Avot 5:13</i>)</span></p><p></p>\n<p><span></span></p><p> </p>\n<p><b><span>There are four temperaments among men:  </span></b></p><p><b></b></p><b></b>\n<p><span>Easy to provoke and easy to appease – his loss is canceled by his gain.  </span></p><p></p>\n<p><span>Hard to provoke and hard to appease – his gain is canceled by his loss.  </span></p><p></p>\n<p><span>Hard to provoke and easy to appease – he is a saintly man.  </span></p><p></p>\n<p><span>Easy to provoke and hard to appease – he is a wicked man. (<i>Pirkei Avot 5:14</i>)</span></p><p></p>\n<p><span></span></p><p> </p>\n<p><b><span>There are four types of charity-givers:  </span></b></p><p><b></b></p><b></b>\n<p><span>He who wants to give but does not wish that others should give – he begrudges what belongs to others.  </span></p><p></p>\n<p><span>He who wants that others should give but not that he should give – he begrudges what belongs to himself.  </span></p><p></p>\n<p><span>He who wants to give and also that others should give – he is a saintly man.  </span></p><p></p>\n<p><span>He who does not want to give and does not wish others to give – he is a wicked man. (<i>Pirkei Avot 5:16</i>)<br /> </span></p><p></p>\n\n<p style=\"text-align:center;\"><span><span>THE FOUR CHILDREN: Your Turn!</span></span></p><p></p>\n<p><span></span></p><p> </p>\n<p><span>Take a minute to draw your own version of the four sons. It can be as funny, as serious, or as just plain ridiculous as you like. Just remember – this is a FAMILY Seder!</span></p><p></p>\n<p><i><span></span></i></p><p><i> </i></p><i></i>\n<table>\n<tbody>\n<tr>\n<td>\n<p style=\"text-align:center;\"><span><span>(Wicked)</span></span><span><span> </span></span><span><span>רשע</span></span><span><span> </span></span><i><span><span></span></span></i></p><p><i></i></p><i></i>\n</td>\n<td>\n<p style=\"text-align:center;\"><span><span>(Wise)</span></span><span><span> </span></span><span><span>חכם</span></span><span><span> </span></span><i><span><span></span></span></i></p><p><i></i></p><i></i>\n</td>\n</tr>\n<tr>\n<td>\n<p style=\"text-align:center;\"><span><span>שאינו יודע לשאול</span></span><span><span></span></span></p><p></p>\n<p style=\"text-align:center;\"><span><span>(Does Not Know How to Ask)</span></span><i><span><span></span></span></i></p><p><i></i></p><i></i>\n</td>\n<td>\n<p style=\"text-align:center;\"><span><span>(Simple)</span></span><span><span> </span></span><span><span>תם</span></span><i><span><span></span></span></i></p><p><i></i></p><i></i>\n</td>\n</tr>\n</tbody>\n</table>", "cliptype": "text", "clipsource": "Bob Family Haggadah", "featured": 0, "featuredIn": null, "is_public": 1, "is_published": 1, "media": { "image": null, "audio": null, "video": null }, "thumbnail": null, "clip_section": [ { "haggadah_section": "-- Four Children", "slug": "four-children" } ], "likes": 0, "downloads": 315, "tags": [], "themes": [], "language": "0", "is_bookmarked": "0", "is_liked": 0, "meta_tags": { "title": "Bob Haggadah - The Four Children | Passover haggadah by Josh Bob", "description": "Our simple platform allows you to create a custom Passover Haggadah, with access to unique content contributed by our community. 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It is not unusual for some Seders to take six or more hours – enough time for a baseball double-head...", "user_image": "", "user_image_original": "", "body": "<p><strong>THE SHORT VERSIONS!</strong></p>\n\n<p>It is not unusual for some Seders to take six or more hours – enough time for a baseball double-header (without the hot dogs)! Some Seders, though, take less than a half-hour, not counting the meal. To satisfy those who would rather be watching the game (you know who you are!), here is the Seder, in all its glory, presented in the Abridged, Very Abridged, and Hyper-Abridged versions.</p>\n\n<p><strong>The 30-Second Seder</strong></p>\n\n<p> <em> </em> </p>\n\n<p>We were slaves in Egypt, now we are free. Let’s have a Seder!</p>\n\n<p>What’s on the Seder plate? Egg, herbs, bone, greens, Charoset.</p>\n\n<p>Let’s drink some wine.</p>\n\n<p>Why is this night different?</p>\n\n<p>Why is this child different?</p>\n\n<p>Ten plagues on the Egyptians.</p>\n\n<p>Enough already – Dayeinu!</p>\n\n<p>Drink wine again.</p>\n\n<p>Matzah, Maror, Hillel sandwich, let’s eat!</p>\n\n<p>Where’s the Afikoman?</p>\n\n<p>Thanks for the food!</p>\n\n<p>Drink some more Wine.</p>\n\n<p>Open the door for Elijahu!</p>\n\n<p>Drink some wine – last one.</p>\n\n<p>Thanking and singing.</p>\n\n<p>Next year in Jerusalem!</p>\n\n<p><strong> </strong></p>\n\n<p><strong>The 15-Second Seder</strong></p>\n\n<p> <em> </em> </p>\n\n<p>Were slaves, now free. Seder!</p>\n\n<p>Seder plate? Stuff.</p>\n\n<p>Wine.</p>\n\n<p>Why is this night?</p>\n\n<p>Why is this child?</p>\n\n<p>PLAGUES! Dayeinu!</p>\n\n<p>Wine.</p>\n\n<p>Matzah, Maror, Charoset, let’s eat!</p>\n\n<p>Afikoman?</p>\n\n<p>Wine.</p>\n\n<p>Elijahu!</p>\n\n<p>Wine.</p>\n\n<p>Singing.</p>\n\n<p>Next year in Jerusalem!</p>\n\n<p><strong> </strong></p>\n\n<p><strong>The 5-Second Seder</strong></p>\n\n<p> <em> </em> </p>\n\n<p>Seder! Wine! Why? Plagues! Let’s eat! Next year in Jerusalem!</p>", "cliptype": "text", "clipsource": "Bob Family Haggadah", "featured": 1, "featuredIn": null, "is_public": 1, "is_published": 1, "media": { "image": null, "audio": null, "video": null }, "thumbnail": null, "clip_section": [ { "haggadah_section": "Introduction", "slug": "introduction" } ], "likes": 0, "downloads": 702, "tags": [ { "tag": "Comedy", "slug": "comedy" } ], "themes": [ { "theme": "Comedy", "slug": "comedy" } ], "language": "0", "is_bookmarked": "0", "is_liked": 0, "meta_tags": { "title": "Bob Haggadah - The Short Versions | Passover haggadah by Josh Bob", "description": "Our simple platform allows you to create a custom Passover Haggadah, with access to unique content contributed by our community. 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HA LACHMAH ANYAH -</span> </span></b><b><span> </span></b><span></span></p><p></p>\n<p><span>This is the traditional invitation for all to join the Seder. Some families open the door at this point in the</span></p><p></p> Seder as a sign of welcoming any and all guests to the Seder.<p></p>\n\n<p><span>Ha lachma anya di achalu avatana b'ara d'mitzraim.</span></p><p></p>\n<p><span></span></p><p> </p>\n<p><span>This is the bread of affliction, which our ancestors ate in the land of Egypt.</span></p><p></p>\n<p><span>Let all who are hungry come and eat.</span></p><p></p>\n<p><span>Let all who are in need, come and celebrate Passover.</span></p><p></p>\n<p><span>Today, we are here. Next year, in the land of Israel.</span></p><p></p>\n<p><span>Today, we are slaves. Next year, we will be free.</span></p><p></p>\n<p><b><span></span></b></p><p><b> </b></p><b></b>\n<table>\n<tbody>\n<tr>\n<td>\n<p style=\"text-align:center;\"><b><span>Seder-Man</span></b></p><p><b></b></p><b></b>\n<p><i><span>[This is the non-traditional invitation… sung to the tune of the theme song from “Spiderman.”]</span></i></p><p><i></i></p><i></i>\n<p><i><span></span></i></p><p><i> </i></p><i></i>\n<table>\n<tbody>\n<tr>\n<td>\n<p><span>Seder-Man, Seder-Man, <br /> Doesn’t eat bread or cake or flan <br /> Says <i>Kiddush</i>, drinks his wine,<br /> Then does it again three more times<br /> <i>Oy vey!</i><br /> <i>Pesach </i>with Seder-Man. <br /> <br /> Who knows one?<br /> Listen bud, <br /> He's got Matzah meal in his blood.<br /> Eats <i>karpas</i>, </span></p><p></p>\n<p><i><span>Maror </span></i><span>too.</span></p><p></p>\n<p><span>He’s much more than a token Jew!<br /> What’s <i>nu</i>?<br /> Check with the Seder-Man.</span></p><p></p>\n</td>\n<td>\n<p><span>In the still of night, <br /> On the 15^th of <i>Nissan</i>,</span></p><p></p>\n<p><i><span>Yom Tov</span></i><span> candles he’ll light,<br /> At the scene of Seder one. <br /> <br /> Seder-Man, Seder-Man<br /> What a <i>mensch</i> is that Seder-Man!<br /> All <i>Chametz</i> <br /> He ignores<br /> <i>Naches</i> is his reward. <br /> <br /> To him, Passover is like heaven<br /> Wherever there’s no leaven<br /> You'll find the Seder-man!</span></p><p></p>\n</td>\n</tr>\n</tbody>\n</table>\n\n</td>\n</tr>\n</tbody>\n</table>\n<p><span></span></p><p> </p>", "cliptype": "text", "clipsource": "Bob Family Haggadah", "featured": 0, "featuredIn": null, "is_public": 1, "is_published": 1, "media": { "image": null, "audio": null, "video": null }, "thumbnail": null, "clip_section": [ { "haggadah_section": "Introduction", "slug": "introduction" } ], "likes": 0, "downloads": 277, "tags": [], "themes": [], "language": "0", "is_bookmarked": "0", "is_liked": 0, "meta_tags": { "title": "Bob Haggadah - Seder-Man | Passover haggadah by Josh Bob", "description": "Our simple platform allows you to create a custom Passover Haggadah, with access to unique content contributed by our community. 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Explain the purpose behind each item:]</span></i></p><p><i></i></p><i></i>\n<p><b><span>Maror (bitter herbs)</span></b><span><br /> Bitter Herbs (usually horseradish) symbolize the bitterness of Egyptian slavery. Maror is used in the Seder because of the commandment to eat the paschal lamb \"with unleavened bread and bitter herbs.\" </span></p><p></p>\n<p><span><br /> <b>Karpas (vegetable) </b><br /> Vegetable (usually parsley) is dipped into salt water during the Seder. The salt water represents the tears shed during Egyptian slavery. The dipping of a vegetable as an appetizer is said to date back to biblical times.<br /> <br /> <b>Charoset (apple, nut, spice and wine mixture)</b><br /> Apple, nuts, and spices ground together and mixed with wine are symbolic of the mortar used by Hebrew slaves to build Egyptian structures. The Charoset is sweet because sweetness is symbolic of God's kindness, which was able to make even slavery more bearable. According to legend, the use of apples in charoset stems from Pharaoh's decree that all male Hebrew children were to be killed at birth. Mothers would go out to the orchards to give birth, and thus save their babies (at least temporarily) from the Egyptian soldiers. <br /> <br /> <b>Zeroa (shankbone)</b><br /> The Shankbone is symbolic of the Paschal lamb offered as the Passover sacrifice in biblical times. In some communities, it is common to use a chicken neck in place of the shankbone. Vegetarian households often use beets for the shankbone on the seder plate. The red beets symbolize the blood of the Paschal lamb, which was used to mark the lintel and doorposts of the houses during the first Passover (Exodus 12:22). <br /> <br /> <b>Beitzah (egg)</b><br /> The Roasted Egg is symbolic of the festival sacrifice made in biblical times. On Passover, an additional sacrifice (the Paschal lamb) was offered as well. The egg is also a traditional symbol of mourning, and has been interpreted by some as a symbolic mourning for the loss of the Temple. Since the destruction of the Temple in the year 70 C.E., neither the festival sacrifice nor the special Passover sacrifice could be offered. It is also a symbol of spring - the season in which Passover is always celebrated. It should be baked or roasted if possible. </span></p><p></p>\n<p></p><p> </p>\n<p><b><span><span>Tapuz (orange)</span></span></b></p><p><b></b></p><b></b><span></span>\n<p><span>Many families and congregations have begun adding an orange to the Seder plate as a way of acknowledging the role of women in Jewish life. The origin of this custom has been described in a variety of ways; however, the authoritative explanation comes from Susannah Heschel:</span></p><p></p>\n\n<p><span></span></p><p> </p>\n<p><span>In the early 1980s, the Hillel Foundation invited me to speak on a panel at Oberlin College. While on campus, I came across a Haggada that had been written by some Oberlin students to express feminist concerns. One ritual they devised was placing a crust of bread on the Seder plate, as a sign of solidarity with Jewish lesbians (\"there's as much room for a lesbian in Judaism as there is for a crust of bread on the Seder plate\"). </span></p><p></p>\n<p><span></span></p><p> </p>\n<p><span>At the next Passover, I placed an orange on our family's Seder plate. During the first part of the Seder, I asked everyone to take a segment of the orange, make the blessing over fruit, and eat it as a gesture of solidarity with Jewish lesbians and gay men, and others who are marginalized within the Jewish community (I mentioned widows in particular). </span></p><p></p>\n<p><span></span></p><p> </p>\n<p><span><span>When lecturing, I often mentioned my custom as one of many new feminist rituals that had been developed in the last twenty years. Somehow, though, my intention of affirming lesbians and gay men was transformed. Now the story circulates that a MAN stood up after a lecture I delivered and said to me, in anger, that a woman belongs on the bimah as much as an orange on the Seder plate. </span></span></p><p></p>", "cliptype": "text", "clipsource": "Bob Family Haggadah", "featured": 0, "featuredIn": null, "is_public": 1, "is_published": 1, "media": { "image": null, "audio": null, "video": null }, "thumbnail": null, "clip_section": [ { "haggadah_section": "Introduction", "slug": "introduction" } ], "likes": 0, "downloads": 245, "tags": [], "themes": [], "language": "0", "is_bookmarked": "0", "is_liked": 0, "meta_tags": { "title": "Bob Haggadah - Emphasizing the Symbols | Passover haggadah by Josh Bob", "description": "Our simple platform allows you to create a custom Passover Haggadah, with access to unique content contributed by our community. 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B’CHOL DOR VADOR </b></span><span><span>–</span> </span><span> </span><span></span></p>\n<p><b><span>“In Every Generation”</span></b></p>\n<p><span> </span></p>\n<p><i><span>[All present raise their cups – but do not drink.]</span></i></p>\n<table>\n<tbody>\n<tr>\n<td>\n<p><b><span>In Every Generation: Discussion</span></b><span></span></p>\n<p><span>We retell the story of Passover so that we never forget the hardship that our ancestors endured. What other hardships have the Jewish People endured that we should never forget?</span></p>\n<p><span>We each bring to the Seder table our own Mitzrayim – our own baggage that enslaves us in some way. </span></p>\n<p><span>What do you see as your personal Mitzrayim, and how are you working to free yourself from it?</span></p>\n<p><span>Why is this year different from all other years – what has changed for you?<i></i></span></p>\n</td>\n</tr>\n</tbody>\n</table>\n", "cliptype": "text", "clipsource": "Bob Family Haggadah", "featured": 0, "featuredIn": null, "is_public": 1, "is_published": 1, "media": { "image": null, "audio": null, "video": null }, "thumbnail": null, "clip_section": [ { "haggadah_section": "Commentary / Readings", "slug": "commentary-readings" } ], "likes": 0, "downloads": 213, "tags": [], "themes": [], "language": "0", "is_bookmarked": "0", "is_liked": 0, "meta_tags": { "title": "Bob Haggadah - In Every Generation | Passover haggadah by Josh Bob", "description": "Our simple platform allows you to create a custom Passover Haggadah, with access to unique content contributed by our community. 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Then, each person eats a portion of the Afikoman.</em> </p>\n\n<p> <em>After one eats the Afikoman, it is forbidden to eat anything further or to drink anything but for the two remaining mandatory ritual cups of wine, one for the Grace after meals (Birkat HaMazon) and one for Hallel.]</em> </p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n<p>The accepted theory is that Afikoman is a Greek word connoting the dessert – dates, parched corn, nuts, sweet fruits, etc. The Seder meal in the time of the Temple was concluded with a taste of the Paschal lamb that had been offered in the Temple, after which nothing further was eaten.</p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n<p>More recently, the suggestion has been made that the word is akin to a Greek word meaning “entertainment,” which concluded Greco-Roman festive meals. Another theory altogether has the word derived from “Afukimin,” which is ancient Sanskrit for “I hope it’s not in the piano bench again.”</p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n<p>It is the custom in some countries to save a piece of the Afikoman from the Second Seder until the burning of the Hametz the following year, when both are burned together.</p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Stealing for the Next Generation</strong><br />\nby Rabbi David Orlofsky</p>\n\n<p>There is a beautiful custom that takes place every Passover at the Seder. After Kiddush, the father breaks the middle Matzah of the three matzot placed before him and hides it away till the end of the Seder. It is the Afikoman, the final food eaten at the Seder.  <em>Afikoman</em>  is apparently related to the Greek word for \"dessert,\" and it's a pleasure to watch the contented faces of the Seder participants munching away at still another piece of Matzah. Some people observe it's even tastier this year than usual. They are eating the cardboard box.</p>\n\n<p>But as all the youngsters know, before you can reach that exciting conclusion to the Seder, you first have to get the Afikoman. The children, as you know, are encouraged to steal the Afikoman and hold it hostage, refusing to return it until you promise to buy them the gift of their dreams.</p>\n\n<p>Now, far be it from me to be the Grinch that stole Passover, but does it make sense to encourage our children to steal, blackmail and extort money from us? Granted, once they get married they'll be doing it on a regular basis, but do we need to instill it in them as a value at a religious ceremony?</p>\n\n<p>There are those who suggest it's just a harmless game designed to maintain the children's interest in the Seder so they don't drift off. In that case, there should be something there for the average adult as well. But as far as the children are concerned, why not do what we always do? Tell them if they sit quietly they'll get a prize. Offer them a chance to answer questions about what we read.</p>\n\n<p>But thievery and extortion? Isn't that taking educational aids a little too far? Although perhaps seeing what's going on in the American school system, this might be a good way to prepare them. But I digress.</p>\n\n<p>The truth is, I think there's a tremendous lesson to learn from the custom of stealing the Afikoman. Let's take a quick look at the Seder. The Kiddush is followed by a series of unusual activities. We dip a vegetable in salt water, we uncover the matzos, we re-cover the matzos, we remove the Seder plate, we refill the wine cups. Busy as beavers, we are. Finally we get down to business and one of the children recites \"Ma Nishtana - the Four Questions.\" When the child finishes, he is returned to his seat at the table where, between plotting his Afikoman caper, he throws things at his brother and annoys his sister.</p>\n\n<p>Did anyone notice that while we were careful to make sure the child asks the four questions, no one seems to care if he gets any answers?</p>\n\n<p>If you return to the source of the customs that precede the reading of \"Ma Nishtana,\" you find that they all have the same theme: To inspire the children to ask. The child sees the wine cup being refilled, and he thinks: \"Hey! We don't make Kiddush twice!\" He sees the Seder plate being removed and thinks: \"Is the Seder over already?\" This inspires a child's curiosity to say: \"Hey guys, why is this night different from all other nights?\"</p>\n\n<p>Unfortunately what happens most of the time is that we cover the matzot, uncover the matzot, remove the Seder plate, fill the cups, and when the child's curiosity is stimulated he can count on receiving the same answer: \"How in the world do I know why we're doing all these things? That's how your grandfather did it!\"</p>\n\n<p>A friend of mine once offered a case of beer to whoever gave the best answer to the following question: \"Why?\" Of course, most people gave answers like \"because\" or \"why not?\" But the case of beer went to the person with the best answer: \"Because that's how they did it in Europe.\"</p>\n\n<p>It's sad that people can have a Passover Seder every year and never stop to think of all the \"whys.\"</p>\n\n<p>How do we make this night special from all other nights? Parents have a commandment one night a year to tell their children what's really important - why we are Jews, the traditions and beliefs of our ancestors, the meaning and miracle of Jewish survival. And the kids have a commandment to listen. Imagine! One night a year the kids have a mitzvah to ask questions and actually have to listen to answers. What an opportunity! But do we take advantage of it? Or do we give our children the same tired Seder performance we did last year?</p>\n\n<p>With all the preparations for Passover, all the cleaning and shopping and cooking - shouldn't we spend some time preparing our Seder? Thinking about what I want to tell my children. Maybe we should buy some of the excellent classical commentaries on the Haggadah, most of which are now available in English, and study them. See if there is a fresh approach to the Seder that we want to share with our children. Something that will be meaningful and relevant to our children in the twenty-first century.</p>\n\n<p>That, I believe, is the reason for the stealing of the Afikoman. Our children just asked four questions; they deserve answers. Maybe the wise men who instituted the custom wanted to remind us that we can’t finish the Seder without the children. \"Mom, Dad, remember me? I want some answers. And if I have to blackmail you to remember that you have a kid, I'm prepared to do it.\"</p>\n\n<p>We all struggle to make the Passover Seder meaningful for our guests and for ourselves. But be careful to remember that the next generation is sitting at your Seder table.</p>\n", "cliptype": "text", "clipsource": "Bob Family Haggadah", "featured": 0, "featuredIn": null, "is_public": 1, "is_published": 1, "media": { "image": null, "audio": null, "video": null }, "thumbnail": null, "clip_section": [ { "haggadah_section": "Tzafun", "slug": "tzafun" } ], "likes": 0, "downloads": 225, "tags": [], "themes": [], "language": "0", "is_bookmarked": "0", "is_liked": 0, "meta_tags": { "title": "Bob Haggadah - Afikoman | Passover haggadah by Josh Bob", "description": "Our simple platform allows you to create a custom Passover Haggadah, with access to unique content contributed by our community. 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