{ "clip_details": { "clip": { "is_admin": 0, "is_owner": 0, "handle": "ayeka-suggestions", "title": "Ayeka Suggestions", "author": "Aryeh Ben David", "author_handle": "dvdbgmlny", "author_initials": "AB", "covertext": "Here are a few suggestions from  Ayeka :Pre-SederE-mail everyone who is coming and ask people what their goals for the S...", "user_image": "", "user_image_original": "", "body": "<p><span><strong>Here are a few suggestions from  <em>Ayeka</em> :</strong></span></p><p><strong>Pre-Seder</strong></p><p>E-mail everyone who is coming and ask people what their goals for the Seder are. Toss out a trigger question and get people talking already before the Seder. Ask them if they have any favorite customs. Get people psyched and familiar with each other before they arrive.</p><p><strong>Make it Different</strong></p><p>Try reading the Hagada on the floor. We use a sheet of plywood to make a low table and surround it with beanbags and mattresses. This makes it unique and a lot more comfortable. Also easier to recline and kids love it.</p><p><strong>Don't teach - Evoke</strong></p><p>The Seder is not a learning event. If the Rabbis had wanted us to learn they wouldn't have asked us to drink 4 cups of wine (they weren't talking about grape juice). We have 364 days of the year to learn about the Exodus. The Seder is an experience to evoke our hearts and souls - to be affected by the Exodus.</p><p>Think of it as a wedding anniversary - when the couple opens up its wedding album. Their goal is not just to be nostalgic and remember what happened, but to rekindle the love that may have grown fainter because of the busy-ness of life.</p><p><strong>Spiritual Chevruta</strong></p><p>At some point in the Seder, shake things up by offering a trigger question and then asking everyone to turn to the person next to them and talk for a few minutes. Not everything at the Seder has to be all together. You can then ask if anyone would like to share with the rest.</p><div>Possible questions are:</div><p>*Have you ever had a 'liberation' moment of getting unstuck from something in your life?</p><p>*Do you think that God helped you then?</p><p>*Were you afraid? What gave you the courage?</p><p><strong>No reading Hagada commentaries</strong></p><p>Reading the commentaries distracts people from listening to others and usually engender stale Divrei Torah. We're not interested in what <span>other</span> people have to say at Seder - we're interested in where <span>you</span> are, what it brings up for <span>you</span>, and what <span>you</span> have to say! If you do quote from a commentary, then at least add what this commentary says to you.</p><div><span><strong>Seder Leader</strong></span></div><div><span>PLEASE do not metamorphosize into the Rabbinic Scholar for one night a year.</span> <span>Your job is not to preach and impress everyone with your erudition, but to create a safe space for others to share. Try talking personally and even intimately about what the Seder is for you. People will reflect back to you the model you set.</span></div><div><strong>The Meal</strong></div><div>Prepare a question or topic for conversation at the meal. Seder is once-a-year and if not directed the conversation can quickly become very every-day. The question can be as simple as: \"What is the most meaningful part of the Hagada for you?\"</div><div> </div><p><strong>Kids</strong></p><p>The Rabbis set up the Afikomen as a tool to keep the kids engaged. Make up your own tricks.</p><ul><li>Ask someone to pretend to be a CNN reporter and interview Pharoah's wife</li><li style=\"text-align:left;\">Which plague would you  <em>least</em>  want to experience?</li><li style=\"text-align:left;\">Ask someone to be a Weather Reporter in Egypt during the Plagues</li><li style=\"text-align:left;\">Sing Ma Nishtanah with your mouth closed</li><li>Candy - Give out candy when the kids ask a question - simple candies for asking a question, special candies for when they ask a question that no one can answer</li></ul>", "cliptype": "text", "clipsource": "Original", "featured": 0, "featuredIn": null, "is_public": 1, "is_published": 1, "media": { "image": null, "audio": null, "video": null }, "thumbnail": null, "clip_section": [ { "haggadah_section": null, "slug": null } ], "likes": 0, "downloads": 108, "tags": [], "themes": [], "language": "0", "is_bookmarked": "0", "is_liked": 0, "meta_tags": { "title": "Ayeka Suggestions | Passover haggadah by Aryeh Ben David", "description": "Our simple platform allows you to create a custom Passover Haggadah, with access to unique content contributed by our community. 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Celebration!\"  </p>\n<p><strong>Disjointed</strong>. There tend to be a lot of unconnected comments about different parts of the Hagada at a Seder. It's very hard to hold it together and have an interesting conversation.  </p>\n<p><strong>Boredom</strong>. It's really hard to keep everyone engaged. Different ages, different needs, different attention spans. </p>", "cliptype": "text", "clipsource": "Original", "featured": 0, "featuredIn": null, "is_public": 1, "is_published": 1, "media": { "image": null, "audio": null, "video": null }, "thumbnail": null, "clip_section": [ { "haggadah_section": null, "slug": null } ], "likes": 0, "downloads": 104, "tags": [], "themes": [], "language": "0", "is_bookmarked": "0", "is_liked": 0, "meta_tags": { "title": "Ayeka: Challenges to the Seder | Passover haggadah by Aryeh Ben David", "description": "Our simple platform allows you to create a custom Passover Haggadah, with access to unique content contributed by our community. 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